Is It Normal To Feel Cheated After a C-Section?
Yes, it is normal to feel cheated after having a c-section especially if you were expecting to deliver naturally. It’s a feeling that you were robbed of an experience that you imagined would happen for you in a specific way.
Of course you’ll often hear from friends and loved ones that what really matters is that you had a healthy baby, while that is very important, it’s just not enough to make up for an emotional let down that having a c-section can bring.
So what can you do?
First of all, work through your emotions; don’t sweep them under the rug. Psychology experts tell us to write our emotions and thoughts down on paper. It’s true, writing our inner most thoughts and emotions are therapeutic, it clears your mind of the stresses and emotions that contribute to your feelings of disappointment and sadness. This will ultimately help you feel in control. I read once that it’s like getting an outsider’s view into yourself.
Really take a hard look at what your feelings are by keeping a daily journal and analyzing exactly what you feel each day. Write down what makes you sad, angry or happy. Then look at your hopes, wants and needs and list them in importance to you. Identify what you are good at, what you enjoy, what brings you inner peace and what people bring you the most joy and what images are calming for you. Then look at ways they can help you find joy and happiness in your life.
Taking time for yourself in this manner helps you work through your emotions in a positive way because you are really examining how you feel and understanding the real you. But most of all it will help you put your sadness and emotions behind you allowing you to move forward and embrace the future with happiness and joy.
Let me also suggest a great guide I found called “Emotional Recovery From A Cesarean“.
Also look into finding time to talk with other women who have experienced the same emotional trauma. Find women who truly understand and have had the same experiences as you and want to help. If you don’t know anyone personally have a look at ICAN (International Cesarean Awareness Network) and get on their email support list.
